Saturday, March 12, 2011

Returning Home

First of all, I would like to give a quick shout-out to my friend James at http://james-thesehappydays.blogspot.com/ James is a real life friend of mine who is looking to get into blogging, and he writes some really interesting posts about varying topics, so I suggest that you go and follow him, I'm sure that he will return the favor!

So I'm a college student, but I still return home from time to time to visit my family.

This weekend is one of those weekends.

I always find the time that I spend at home now strange, because this place, the place where I used to call "home" really is not my "home" anymore.  I have a bed here, but anymore, this is no longer my bed, instead it has just become a bed.  It is rather strange, and I feel somewhat out of place when I am here, almost like it is some kind of vacation or something.

Then there is another thing that when I am home, my parents are constantly "checking in" on me.  It's kinda cute at first that they want to see how I am doing and want to make sure that everything is ok, but after a little while, it gets quite frustrating and annoying.

I'm not used to people randomly sticking their nose into my room to ask me if I'm doing "alright," and it always comes as a surprise when it happens.  On the upswing, whenever I am hungry I can tell one of my parents such and I will pretty much instantly have a sandwich, so that's pretty cool.

When I am at home, I also need to be courteous of my family.  I need to worry about walking in the back door of my house at 4:00 in the morning so that I don't wake anyone up.  I need to text my parents to tell them that I'm going to be staying out late.  I need to constantly be watching my language and making sure I don't go into too much detail describing some of my more hilarious college exploits.

Then there's also the thing that when I'm at home, my family wants me to spend all of my time with them.  I try to tell them, but they seem to not realize that while I am home I have a lot of friends that I would like to see and hang out with as well, and also I need time to study (I am a college student after all). 

I feel that whenever I am home my family always tries to plan activities for me to do with them, and I feel really bad about telling them "no" that I already have other plans.  It's even harder since I only come home for a weekend every 7 weeks or so, so we have little time together.

Coming home is also strange because it always seems like while I'm away things change.  For example, when I stepped into my family's living room last night, I realized that they had redone a lot of it.  The couches were in a different position, the walls were painted different colors, we had a new rug, new pictures were lining the walls... it was really unexpected!  I stepped into the room and all I could say was "wow."  It was a big change out of nowhere, especially since we've had pretty much the same living room setup my entire life.

Oh well, so I guess there are some good things and some bad things about coming home, I enjoy spending time with my family and some of my friends who I don't get to see as often... but I don't like the change in lifestyle that I need to undergo while I am here.

What are your thoughts about going home or spending time with family?

43 comments:

  1. going to take a looks on your friend's blog, looks interesting

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  2. I live at home, but when I was away for a year at school, it was nice to come home from time to time. But it can definitely be overwhelming when the family tries to take up all of your time without thinking about your desire to see friends you haven't seen in forever.

    I probably won't visit a lot once I move out. But I can't be sure.

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  3. I know the feeling of home but not really home anymore. It really weird at first and takes some adjustment. Like some things aren't where they've always been and things are just different.

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  4. One thing I love about coming home is mom's cooking. I recently had an epiphany about this I think. Maybe I'm shying away from cooking for myself properly in order to better preserve what I can enjoy by eating her prepared meals.

    That or I'm just lazy.

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  5. I live so close to my parents house. If I wanna feel at home It just takes 10 minutes to get there.

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  6. I know how you feel man, I was going through that same stuff.
    Now I've been living at home again and all that extra attention is gone.
    My advice is take advantage of it while they still want to do stuff for you lol.

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  7. i love coming home cause i get to eat, empty my bowels and sleep!

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  8. I never get home sick but I can see why some people do.

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  9. When I moved out my mum moved house, of course, then I moved back, so now I sleep on a sofa =|

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  10. I love my familiy..but I'm weird like that.

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  11. I still live in home. I am not missing any of it yet.

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  12. Family is what really matters. I love visiting home and I do it quite often.

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  13. It may seem annoying, but enjoy it while you can.

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  14. Love your blog! Totally going to show my support and follow!

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  15. i always look forward to go see my family

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  16. I love weekends, even with work. I enjoy them so very much

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  17. Thanks for the shout-out buddy. There's no shame in crashing on a couch a couple nights in a row. Haha.

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  18. I live at home, so I spend every day with my family. It's okay I guess but I think I would miss it if I lived alone.

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  19. nice post, love your blog :)

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  20. Hahah sandwich machine? Nice lol

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  21. Damn, must be good to get a sandwich everytime you want one.

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  22. haha totally agree with you :) sandwich machine xD?

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  23. i make sure to check your friends blog out, sounds interesting

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  24. I live at home so...I just want to get out :(

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  25. It is generally a mixed bag of feelings on going home. do i want to get into a fight with a roommate or a family member? do i want to pay for food? or get some gas and drive home for some free food and leftovers? etc

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  26. I shall follow this "james" guy

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  27. Going home always feels comforting.

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  28. Great reading. I spent weekend with my family.

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  29. Returning home is a long time tradition for college students

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  30. I spend many time with family too. Nice post :)

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  31. Hate it or Love it
    Family will always be annoying
    but you'll look back and miss it someday

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  32. Good read!

    I get the same feeling when I head back too.

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  33. Totally understand bro. I pretty much hate my family and only tolerate our co-existence as a necessity to further my own goals. I mean, I'm nice to them, I'll do nice things for them, and I take care of the house better than they all do put together, but still.

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  34. It's weird. It's like everything is the same but there's something different about it.

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  35. I never want to go back home, love it out here..

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  36. The only good part about going back home is the home cooking.

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  37. I love returning home and eating my take away food back home from work!

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  38. I wish I had the luxury of going away for college, then maybe I might understand how you're feeling a little bit better.

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